The Head of Every Man is Christ, the Head of a Wife is Her Husband, and the Head of Christ is God. 0513

The Head of Every Man is Christ,
the Head of a Wife is Her Husband, and the Head of Christ is God.

(Gender differences part 3 of 4)
Women’s rights revolution and feminism, has really done damage to women, our families, and the visible church. Selfishness is a sin, whether in men or women. God created us men and women and made us to complement not compete with each other. We are equally human beings and children of God. But we are made with special perspectives, talents, and needs. To ignore how God made us different is to open the door to dysfunction, frustration, and sinfulness.

Through out the Old Testament and pre-Pentecost New Testament, God gives faith to a limited few to work and speak through.

Here are Bible passages that speak of these differences. Since all of inspired scripture is provided for training in righteousness, even passages that the world finds offensive must be wrestled with and correctly applied by the body of Christ.

While God’s judgements are directed toward spiritual and moral matters and do not directly apply outside of this area, the wise would prayerfully consider in principle how these gender differences would make men or women better candidates for for some endeavors, occupations, and professions and but riskier ones for others.

“Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self- control. ” (1 Tim 2:11-15)

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty ” (1Pet 3:1-4)

“likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self- control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works” (1Tim9-10)

What’s the issue with Head Coverings?

” Now I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions even as I delivered them to you. But I want you to understand that ” (1Cor11:2-3)

“the head of every man is Christ,
the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. ” (1Cor11:3)

Christ is the “head” of man.
“Head” means the sole authority, the one who chooses what one says or does, the one who is responsible.
Similarly, the head of a wife is her husband. The head of Christ is God, the father. Logic tells us if a then b, and if b then c, then if a then c.
God, Christ, man, and wife all honor God and those God choose to put above us. The ultimate purpose is to enable each of us to honor God. We do that through submission.

The next passages transitions from spiritual to symbolic to physical, as though the spiritual is explained by the symbolic and none the less honored by the physical.

“Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, ” (1Cor11:4)

Man’s head is Christ and God’s says it dishonors Christ to conceal or disobeys what is Christ’s will.

“but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, ” (1Cor11:5)

A wife must submit to her husband, and obey what is her husband’s will. In private, she helps her husband remember what God’s will is, but the man is responsible to Christ for what he, his wife (and family) says and does.
Next God makes judgements and uses them to explain spiritual reality:

“since it is the same as if her head were shaven. For if a wife will not cover her head, then she should cut her hair short. But since it is disgraceful for a wife to cut off her hair or shave her head, let her cover her head. ” (1Cor11:5-6)

The Bible says women should have unshaven hair. Her hair is her glory as she is her husband’s glory. But if she shares her glory with the world, uncovered hair in public, she is dishonoring her husband and thereby dishonoring Christ. Spiritually speaking, she is accountable to her husband, as he is to Christ, as Christ is to God the father. Her privately uncovered beauty is a gift from God to her husband and her godly behavior glorifies her husband.

“For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, but woman is the glory of man. For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. That is why a wife ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels.” (1Cor11:2-3)

Image is important to God. Our image tell others a lot about our internal self, our characteristics, our gifts, our education, our devotion to God. God made women for man. While the world calls this sexist, God calls this truth and opposition to it rebellion.

” Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman; for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God. Judge for yourselves:is it proper for a wife to pray to God with her head uncovered?” (1Cor11:7-13)

All things are from God. Knowing God’s view of a wife thinking or acting spiritually uncovered, the answer is no, not proper. So what does a wife praying uncovered mean? It means praying in a faith or manner inconsistent to that of her husband. Don’t be unequally yoked. The Bible sees only 1 race – human and only one relevant culture – Godly. Therefore, Christians must only marry other true Christians. Black, white, Hispanic or Asian is irrelevant to God. Different cultures may have Biblical and unBiblical aspects that may be difficult to reconcile with Godliness, but since culture is man made, Christians are led by God’s Holy Spirit to accept only Godly practices. God commands wives to follow their husband to protect them from deception. The most important decision a person will make is who to marry. Only court Christians. During the courting process, you must learn if they are truly saved. Converting for sexual attraction is sinful. Such conversions are usually false! This is also why God expects parents to be a major part of the marriage decision process. Children lack the life experiences to always make the most Godly decisions. Together in pray, in obedience to parents and God, the right marriage match can be made in a Godly way!

” Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair it is a disgrace for him, but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering. If anyone is inclined to be contentious, we have no such practice, nor do the churches of God.” ( 1 Cor 2:14-16)

Long haired guys and shaved headed gals should set off warning bells. Rock stars have long hair more out of rebellion than to fashion. Fans who emulate them worship their rebellion. Avoid ungodly and rebellious people. Upon closer inspection, rebellion in one area will likely spread sin throughout their character. Even those who are only following fashion are disobeying God out of ignorance, if not rebellion. What other will do out of obedience (not works) will reveal far more truth than what they say.

When was the last time you heard your pastor speak on these passages? If you attend a church with a female pastor, I would guess you haven’t. Most of these passages deal with authority and responsibility. The norm in today’s world is for women to deny the authority of God by ignoring the authority of men over them and for men to deny the authority of God by ignoring their responsibility to lead and protect the women God puts under their care and authority.

How many teachers at your church are men? Women honoring their maternal instincts step into the vacuum of roles that God says only men can spiritually fill. Men honoring their paternal instincts to lead, out of selfishness or laziness may still fail to honor God’s will that they care for their family as Jesus cares for His bride the Church. Most modern pastors choose not to know the flock entrusted to them by God, and therefore fail to lead and teach into all righteousness. Again trust what they do, not just what they say.

“Most assuredly, I say to you, he who does not enter the sheepfold by the door, but climbs up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber. But he who enters by the door is the shepherd of the sheep. To him the doorkeeper opens, and the sheep hear his voice; and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. And when he brings out his own sheep, he goes before them; and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice. Yet they will by no means follow a stranger, but will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.” Then Jesus said to them again, “Most assuredly, I say to you, I am the door of the sheep. I am the door. If anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep. But a hireling, he who is not the shepherd, one who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees; and the wolf catches the sheep and scatters them. I am the good shepherd; and I know My sheep, and am known by My own. As the Father knows Me, even so I know the Father; and I lay down My life for the sheep. And other sheep I have which are not of this fold; them also I must bring, and they will hear My voice; and there will be one flock and one shepherd. My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand. I and My Father are one.” (John 10:1-5, 7, 9-12, 14-16, 27-30 NKJV)

Passage such as this describe a normative case. Some use it to become more Godly. Others ignore them, when it doesn’t match the reality they see in church life. I suggest that it is a litmus test. Every one actually saved has the Holy Spirit to complete the work of God in them. Many claim to be Christian. Look for the work of the Holy Spirit! 1-3 John warn us to seek confirmation of The Holy Spirit in those that claim to follow Christ and belong to Him.

The bible says what it says. If you find my interpretation hard to accept, i’m ok with that. These passages are open to different applications. However, God inspired them for out righteousness and they must be applied. While I may be wrong, there is one correct interpretation and i am all ears to what you think these passages mean. Ignoring them isn’t an option.

One further observation, scripture records women in leadership and ownership roles in society, without commenting on its suitability. Never-the-less, women bring the same strengths and weaknesses to their positions of leadership. Just as a married man tend to make better leaders that single ones, I believe married women who honor Godly virtue make better leaders, as well. Margaret Thatcher, Sarah Palin, and Dolly Madison are such leaders. My only concern for women in leadership is the tendency of women in leadership to value male virtues at the expense of the female ones.

In the end, either you listen to men or trust God, revealed in scripture. Sadly, most who fill Christian churches have never repented or said they did so once, just to buy fire insurance. Following Christ may be a lonely endeavor. But for those truly in Christ, we are never alone. God is with us!

Part 4: Where Did This War Between the Sexes Begin?

In Christ,


~ by az4christ on May 28, 2013.

3 Responses to “The Head of Every Man is Christ, the Head of a Wife is Her Husband, and the Head of Christ is God. 0513”

  1. Question: What of someone who is physically female, but wishes to never marry? I am not a Christian (I’m Wiccan), but have asked this of a few of my Christian friends and they usually say that in a case like that they’d assume that Christ then becomes the woman’s “head” as well. Again, I do not believe in this religion so the answer doesn’t affect me, but I enjoy learning what various denominations have to say about the same topic.

    Thanks for your time, and have a pleasant day.

    • It is not Good for man (or women) to be alone. That is why God created families.
      Every woman is born with at least a biological father. Hopefully she enjoys a healthy relationship with her father through out her and his life. Biblically, it is normative for the daughter to be under the care and protection of her father. Normally, this continues until she marries a husband.
      If she chooses not to marry and not remain under the headship of her father, she is stepping outside of the spiritual protection of her family. I would suggest prayer and the nurturing of a close relationship with the biblical Jesus. This in turn, i believe, would lead to marriage with a Godly man. In any case, knowing Jesus and obeying God will provide protection and joy. Women were created to complement a man, like the church was created to complement Jesus. Empirically, there are many single women in the church and thereby under the headship of Jesus.
      I hope i addressed your question directly and completely.

      • Yes, you did. While I would not follow the above advice, I can appreciate how it might help someone who is a Fundamentalist…or at least a Christian. I will state that I am currently 29 years old, and have never had an interest in marriage in my life thusfar. As you may know, my own faith of 16 years puts no onus on either women or men to marry. I am fulfilled, happy and at peace with my life, just as you most likely are with yours.

        For those who desire or are comfortable with it, matrimony is a wonderful thing. If performed with two people who truly love and care for one another, it is an act of great beauty and significance…which I personally believe is lost in America today. It is the joining of two paths to become one, and should be held in the highest regard for those who are sincere in their desire for marriage. However, some of us (like myself) do not need or desire it. Such is life.

        I wish to thank you for answering my question thoughtfully and intelligently. Theology and religious discussion is one of my great loves, and it is always a pleasure to speak with one such as yourself, who can offer information without speaking of conversion. Perhaps I will stop by again, or see you on my own blog. At any rate, thank you once more, and may your day be peaceful and blessed.


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